Although there are those that would label it ‘new-age claptrap’ or useless ‘psychobabble’; from my own experience I’ve found: negative thoughts corrupt the mind polluting our emotions − which in turn has a profound effect on our behaviour and attitude.
Thinking in a positive or more productive way comes naturally to some people; whereas others find it much easier to view the world through a filter of negativity.
I’ve often wondered: Why do some people see a glass half full whilst others see it half empty?
Is it genetics? Is it the social environment in which we were brought up? Is it a combination of both?
I’m not sure that anyone has a definitive answer to any of those questions.
What I am sure about is, our thoughts arise from the way in which we talk to ourselves. Our ‘self-talk’ or ‘inner dialogue’ can have an effect on our thoughts, behaviour and ultimately our physical health.
Is there a way in which we can change the way we view our experience of life events?
Joseph J. Luciani, in his book The Power of Self-Coaching, certainly believes so.
He asserts: “Change is possible by using self-coaching techniques”.
He goes on to say: “The power of Self-Coaching relies on the fact that you can learn to defeat whatever holds you back in life”.
It’s widely understood that events alone have no emotional content; it’s how we interpret an event that causes the emotions.
So, if we experience an event and we interpret that event as negative, we experience distress; on the other hand if we interpret the event as a positive thing we can experience joy or satisfaction.
Even though these concepts are widely known, many still find it difficult to change their habitual mind-set. They find it almost impossible to change the way they interpret an event; despite the fact that unhelpful negative thoughts stop us from making progress, and, this way of thinking can inhibit us and affect our ability to achieve our goals.
I can see how self-coaching, engaging in positive self-talk, can help us to develop a positive mind-set. By talking to ourselves in a more productive way, we can learn to manage and eventually change the destructive negative thoughts that hold us back.